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Podcast: Case Files of a Fool for Love

I’ve started a podcast! Join me as I chat about my strange adventures in romance and non-monogamy and expanding my definition of love – starting from my strict fundamentalist Christian upbringing all the way through to where I am today, practicing relationship anarchy and still trying to figure life and love out bit by bit. […]

In memory of a friend

Someone I cared about and respected deeply died this past Friday. The grief and shock has been coming in waves for me, mingling with the grief and anxiety I feel about the world at large. It’s taken me a while to decide what to say – if anything – about her death. I tend to […]

I am not all better

A life update Almost exactly three years ago I was discharged from a psychiatric clinic after spending three strange and illuminating weeks there. I was 28 years old, wobbling my way back into the world, eyes stinging from the beauty around me. I felt reborn and also very, very old. ‘Everything is about to change,’ […]

Sex and purity culture

Religion: part 2 Content warning: This post contains mentions of sexual activity, sexual harm, and sexual discrimination. I hope that you’ll listen to your own inner wisdom when deciding whether or not to continue reading. I lost my religion because of sex. Imagine a girl of sixteen, raised in an extremely strict fundamentalist Christian household. […]

Religion (part 1)

Everything is holy We’re coming up on Easter. And I’ve been wanting to write about religion (specifically Christianity) for a long time now, so in honour of the occasion, here we go. I cannot quantify the harm nor the value that religion has contributed to my life. I know that my existence has been shaped […]

Ask Sage: Why do I only feel jealous with one of my partners?

Hi everyone! So someone sent me this question on Instagram, and I am so excited to respond to it here. I’ve been wanting to start some type of advice column for yeeeeears but I’ve always hesitated, because something about it felt really…arrogant, you know? Yet here we are! I lay no claim to any credentials […]

On this day

We’re ten days in and so far 2021 has been…all of the things. Some questions I am asking myself as we skid and crash into this new year: What does it mean to show up fully? How much can and should I allow myself to feel the pain of the world? How do I balance […]

When the body screams: On trauma and feeling safe

I don’t feel safe enough to speak my truth. If I don’t speak my truth I feel as if I might die. *** I desperately need people to like me. I desperately need to act with integrity. *** I desperately need people to approve of my every action. I desperately need to feel free and […]