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Sex and purity culture

Religion: part 2 Content warning: This post contains mentions of sexual activity, sexual harm, and sexual discrimination. I hope that you’ll listen to your own inner wisdom when deciding whether or not to continue reading. I lost my religion because of sex. Imagine a girl of sixteen, raised in an extremely strict fundamentalist Christian household. […]

Religion (part 1)

Everything is holy We’re coming up on Easter. And I’ve been wanting to write about religion (specifically Christianity) for a long time now, so in honour of the occasion, here we go. I cannot quantify the harm nor the value that religion has contributed to my life. I know that my existence has been shaped […]

Ask Sage: Why do I only feel jealous with one of my partners?

Hi everyone! So someone sent me this question on Instagram, and I am so excited to respond to it here. I’ve been wanting to start some type of advice column for yeeeeears but I’ve always hesitated, because something about it felt really…arrogant, you know? Yet here we are! I lay no claim to any credentials […]

On this day

We’re ten days in and so far 2021 has been…all of the things. Some questions I am asking myself as we skid and crash into this new year: What does it mean to show up fully? How much can and should I allow myself to feel the pain of the world? How do I balance […]

When the body screams: On trauma and feeling safe

I don’t feel safe enough to speak my truth. If I don’t speak my truth I feel as if I might die. *** I desperately need people to like me. I desperately need to act with integrity. *** I desperately need people to approve of my every action. I desperately need to feel free and […]

Isolation

And then, two months after I began writing poetry in English again, the annual Poetry in McGregor Competition took place. The theme was “Love in the time of Covid”, something I’d become intimately acquainted with over the last few months. I had the option of writing either in English or Afrikaans. Why did I choose […]

Coming soon(ish)!

I am making a Thing! And I’m hoping over time this thing will become a zine. It will appear here. It will be different from a blog post in that you will be able to download it, and also, if I’m lucky, it might contain some drawings (which, if you’re lucky, will not be done […]

Writing is giving birth

As a child I wrote poetry in French (what now seems to me, with a strange feeling of loss, to be poetry written by somebody else since I have since forgotten the meaning of every fourth word). Coming to South Africa at the age of ten, I flailed about in search of a language that […]